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Does every family have a family member that doesn’t quite fit in? Like a black sheep?

Why does that happen?

Posted - June 10, 2018
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  • 6098
    No not every family.  I was the "black sheep" in mine. Not only not fitting in but leaving to be a hippie and live with a band in San Francisco.
      June 10, 2018 9:13 AM MDT
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  • 177
    How did it work out? Was it fun living with a band?
      June 10, 2018 9:17 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    Oh great.  I got hepatitis and was hospitalized.  The next year I moved in with a former teacher. 
      June 10, 2018 9:23 AM MDT
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  • 177
    Oh dear. What happened with the teacher? Was it a happy ending? Did you get married?
      June 10, 2018 9:29 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    No haha did not marry until I was 53. He taught me a lot of stuff but I left him after a year because I feel in love with the guy who lived upstairs. 
      June 10, 2018 10:02 AM MDT
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  • 44302
    My brother was a nice guy and very intelligent...but he chose a life of crime, homelessness, drugs and alcohol etc. He died three years ago at 60.
      June 10, 2018 10:50 AM MDT
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  • 177
    I’m sorry for your loss
      June 10, 2018 12:52 PM MDT
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  • Not all families have a black sheep.

    Unconsciously, through birth-order and being at different stages of cognitive development when events happen in the family, no two children are affected in the same way.

    Some kids react in the opposite direction against over-controlling or tyrannical parents. They discover their best way to survive is defiance. And then they never stop defying and inadvertently rile everyone around them as adults.

    The scape-goat personality evolves through trying to stop conflict between the parents by drawing it onto the self.


    And some conditions are freak accidents of genes that the parents can neither understand nor accept.



      June 10, 2018 12:46 PM MDT
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  • 5835
    Every family tree has some sap in it.

      June 10, 2018 5:43 PM MDT
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  • 5453
    Yes, and it's my half-brother!

    I wouldn't call him the black sheep of the family, but I would call him the loser of the family.  He takes after his own dad. (He's my mom's son but not my dad's.)

      June 10, 2018 6:26 PM MDT
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